HEY this girl is tormenting me
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smssia0112
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My suggestion isn't to go to the adults and complain, maybe for advice yes but the truth is, kids will lose respect for you if you go behind their backs. There's no reason to care about a bunch of morons' respect, except for the fact that they may just beat you up again even worse if they perceive you as getting them into trouble.
My advice is to confront them yourself, sort it out with words and not fists. They are much more likely to stop. First you need to go to the source though, and talk to this girl. Tell her it's all a misunderstanding, and that you didn't say that. Tell her you're hurt that she did this to you without any evidence and wrongly, and tell her you'd like an apology.
It sounds simple and difficult, but it's the only real way to get things done. If she flips (I said flip, not the swear filter word by the way) you off, then you can either let it go or let your anger consume you and say things you'll regret later.
I recommend the former.
My advice is to confront them yourself, sort it out with words and not fists. They are much more likely to stop. First you need to go to the source though, and talk to this girl. Tell her it's all a misunderstanding, and that you didn't say that. Tell her you're hurt that she did this to you without any evidence and wrongly, and tell her you'd like an apology.
It sounds simple and difficult, but it's the only real way to get things done. If she flips (I said flip, not the swear filter word by the way) you off, then you can either let it go or let your anger consume you and say things you'll regret later.
I recommend the former.
tassietiger
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Depends on a few factors.
SITUATION A: The girl is unattractive
The only reason 10 guys would do something for a girl who is unattractive is money. My solution for this is to offer more money, or other incentives. As you're 15, anything pornographic will bring much respect from your peers, as they might have strict parents who wouldn't allow them to access it (although if they're willing to bash you up for this ugly bitch then they probably aren't the cream of society's proverbial crop.) If you can make mini-pizzas then they will like them also, I have used this incentive to great effect to solve many of the problems I have faced in life.
SITUATION B: She is not that bad looking but her friends are
If she is pretty good-looking and she has ugly friends, then all of the guys are bashing you because they think they stand a chance with her, due to her underrating herself by hanging around with the lower quality girls. What you need to do is create the reason that she has ugly friends, and make it so bad that the guys don't like her any more and won't bash you for her. (e.g. she has a penis - don't say you saw it, just say you saw her piss standing up, the last thing you need at the moment is gay rumours) If it is sufficiently scary, they won't ask her, and they won't be attracted to her, so they won't bash anyone for her.
SITUATION C: She is okay-looking with better-looking friends
They are probably bashing you because they know that they will stand a chance with her better looking friends. What you have to do to this is break down the better-looking friendships she has. The one thing that the hot girls don't want in a friend is for them to be considered hotter. Start up a facebook group saying she is the hottest girl in your grade, get a petition for firefighting squads to follow her because she is 'smoking', and whenever an opportunity for sexual innuendo pops up state her as the one you would like to perform the act with the most. Then her hot friends won't like her any more and she will be in with the ugly crowd. So you have situation B, and you go through that process of saying she has a penis.
SITUATION D: She is really hot and doesn't need friends because she is so hot.
It might be her perverse flirty way of saying she wants you. Go to wherever she lives, climb in her window and get naked. When she walks in, you will find out very shortly whether this is true or not. Asking her to marry you while being naked is optional.
SITUATION A: The girl is unattractive
The only reason 10 guys would do something for a girl who is unattractive is money. My solution for this is to offer more money, or other incentives. As you're 15, anything pornographic will bring much respect from your peers, as they might have strict parents who wouldn't allow them to access it (although if they're willing to bash you up for this ugly bitch then they probably aren't the cream of society's proverbial crop.) If you can make mini-pizzas then they will like them also, I have used this incentive to great effect to solve many of the problems I have faced in life.
SITUATION B: She is not that bad looking but her friends are
If she is pretty good-looking and she has ugly friends, then all of the guys are bashing you because they think they stand a chance with her, due to her underrating herself by hanging around with the lower quality girls. What you need to do is create the reason that she has ugly friends, and make it so bad that the guys don't like her any more and won't bash you for her. (e.g. she has a penis - don't say you saw it, just say you saw her piss standing up, the last thing you need at the moment is gay rumours) If it is sufficiently scary, they won't ask her, and they won't be attracted to her, so they won't bash anyone for her.
SITUATION C: She is okay-looking with better-looking friends
They are probably bashing you because they know that they will stand a chance with her better looking friends. What you have to do to this is break down the better-looking friendships she has. The one thing that the hot girls don't want in a friend is for them to be considered hotter. Start up a facebook group saying she is the hottest girl in your grade, get a petition for firefighting squads to follow her because she is 'smoking', and whenever an opportunity for sexual innuendo pops up state her as the one you would like to perform the act with the most. Then her hot friends won't like her any more and she will be in with the ugly crowd. So you have situation B, and you go through that process of saying she has a penis.
SITUATION D: She is really hot and doesn't need friends because she is so hot.
It might be her perverse flirty way of saying she wants you. Go to wherever she lives, climb in her window and get naked. When she walks in, you will find out very shortly whether this is true or not. Asking her to marry you while being naked is optional.
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This is terrible advice - avoid like the plague
This however is fabulous advice.Don't fight back with muscle, you'd be just as bad as them, and afterwards they'll only look for revenge the same way, resulting in a bad cycle which will only end in someone being seriously hurt.
Knocking them out will do no good, ruin every aspect of their lives by taking away all the things precious to them. Beat them mentally.
My experience of that is different. But it varies so much. Just leave them alone is my advice, if it gets nastier/nasty again, then find adult help, be it teachers/police.
What Zim said, too.
Punk_Sk8r
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No, if he moves on and doesn't want to talk to anyone about it but their still hassling him theres not much else he can do, well he can keep getting hassled of course.....or he can move to another county.
Except the last part of his advice, made it sound as if he should posses and dedicate his life to ruine theres.
whitekickboy
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see guys before this she was a wonderful person.. but you know i cant let go of what those people did to me and whoever said that thing about her breasts being not that good they arent :P i dont think that i would hurt them i just need to see my school counselor and talk to them about it because its just making me stressed now.. but you know if i was to get them i could wear a pair of tights of my head LOOL :P i just hate the way her friends go around just forgetting what they have done.. and they were never punished i just feel that i should punish them :S
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whitekickboy
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no they didnt just throw rocks broke a couple of ribs and my arm ... i under exeraratted that
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Seduce her.
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Now thats just immature.
whitekickboy
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LOl that is immature i have no desire for that :P but you know i think i know what im going to do
im going to forgive them and let it go just be the bigger person
thanks for all your help :P
im going to forgive them and let it go just be the bigger person
thanks for all your help :P
shefellover93
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Good to see that some people on here are still mature. I got bullied at school and it was a problem for me, although not as physically severe it caused me to change school, and all turned out well.
I know you can't run away from all your problems (I still get abuse from those guys and got pushed out in front of a car by one) you can still try to have as little contact with these people as possible. If you were to talk to this girl i would advise an e-mail, letter or text, means you have black and white evidence of your words so she can't twist them or neither can other people.
I wouldn't recommend changing school straight away, but if it becomes something that keeps you awake/makes you feel scared of going into school it could be a good last resort, it was for me.
Believe me, it will pass over, not in the space of 2 or 3 years, but do your best to weather the storm and you will have gained far more knowledge, maturity, empathy and understanding than those guys would have gained hurting you, and also there is a sense of real pride that is second to none.
I mean 15 is hard enough age, not old enough to be recognized as an intellectual peer of adults, but not young enough to get away with stuff, I can assure you i went through the same stuff that you did (maybe not the same severity of injuries) but really physical injuries will last 10 months max, and the mental anguish these guys will have after (Even if they are utter retards) will stay with them and haunt them for a lot longer
Good luck, right behind you,
shefellover93
I know you can't run away from all your problems (I still get abuse from those guys and got pushed out in front of a car by one) you can still try to have as little contact with these people as possible. If you were to talk to this girl i would advise an e-mail, letter or text, means you have black and white evidence of your words so she can't twist them or neither can other people.
I wouldn't recommend changing school straight away, but if it becomes something that keeps you awake/makes you feel scared of going into school it could be a good last resort, it was for me.
Believe me, it will pass over, not in the space of 2 or 3 years, but do your best to weather the storm and you will have gained far more knowledge, maturity, empathy and understanding than those guys would have gained hurting you, and also there is a sense of real pride that is second to none.
I mean 15 is hard enough age, not old enough to be recognized as an intellectual peer of adults, but not young enough to get away with stuff, I can assure you i went through the same stuff that you did (maybe not the same severity of injuries) but really physical injuries will last 10 months max, and the mental anguish these guys will have after (Even if they are utter retards) will stay with them and haunt them for a lot longer
Good luck, right behind you,
shefellover93
whitekickboy
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Guys ive sorted this problem now told the girl how i felt she did the same now we are cool thank you guys for all your helphow do i delete or lock this thread?
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